This is my second day as a blogger. Do I count as a real blogger yet? Thanks to the lovely Panda, I have one follower. So I think I’m legit. Right?
Today is also Jacob and my one month anniversary. One month ago today there were massive storms. and tornado warnings. I feel special, really. Not just anybody gets tornados who want to celebrate with them.
And that’s also the day that we became a “we”.
It’s still a new concept for me. It’s not a loss of identity things. It’s more like I have an inability to make plans for myself. Or go anywhere alone.
We go grocery shopping together. And bike ride together. And picnic in the park together. And play Wii together. And generally have a blast together.
I do love always having a date. Someone to hang out with. Knowing that whatever I do after work, it will include Jacob.
So I’m not complaining.
But sort of.
I was really independent. Like really independent. Like fly to London where I don’t know anyone for a semester independent.
But if I'm perfectly honest about it, I’m relieved I don’t have to be that independent anymore. London by yourself can be lonely. And grocery shopping by yourself can be emotionally exhausting. Or that could just be me.
I’ve decided to embrace this “we” we’ve become. I’m pretty sure it will fade. And one day I’ll be running errands by myself. And one of us will grocery shop alone (please… let that be Jacob). And eventually we’ll be less of a “we” and I’ll miss this.
So tell me, is this a honeymoon phase thing? Will it fade? Do I even want it to fade?
It will wither and fade on the outside, but blossom and grow on the inside.
ReplyDeletethanks alex. that's a very vague and poetic response.
ReplyDeleteJeremiah and I still do everything together but he has also been gone for half of our married life. So we might still be in the honeymoon stage too!
ReplyDeleteHey, Robin, when I got married I went through a period of mourning over my lost independence! I didn't know it at the time, though, but I recognized it years later for what it was. However, it wasn't long before my bride and I were doing our own thing together, and what I felt I had lost in independence, I gained in partnership.
ReplyDeleteYears later, I went through a similar mourning period after our first child came along: we didn't have the liberty as a single-income couple to do what we had previously enjoyed in terms of "independence." Now, though, 10 years later, we have to be much more intentional about it. I'm sure, in time, I'll mourn not being able to do things as a five-person family, as well, when our kids go off to live their own independent lives,. :)
Sol, embrace the "we" that you've become. It will, as Alex said, blossom and grow, but it will also need to be nurtured and fed. And, in time, you'll need to be very much like a gardener because the easiest people to neglect in our lives are generally our closest friends.
And, yes, you still count as a blogger!
Regards,
Rich
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